Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Friends
I have known many friends in my lifetime. Some true, some not so... I have had friends that came and went without looking back. Forgotten, left, and alone. Many of my friends have been very dear to me. I have always seen good in all of them. I have been able to find comfort from them and to be able to confide and relate. I want to know what you think about your friends and what it is that places them in that status. I have always wanted friends that respect me for who I am and help me get through those long days. What is it that you value in a friend and what has ever perturbed you in them as well? I want to hear what you have to say and you can say whatever you want. Who knows. Maybe some will help others to evaluate their friends and improve relationships... The floor is all yours now...
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Wow, Algebra Freak. I can really relate to this post in my life right now. It does not feel good to be stabbed in the back by someone you really trusted and thought was a true friend, nor does it feel good to be ditched, judged, forgotten, or used. I have had a situation in my life where someone I thought was a true friend showed me her true colors and it hurts. But I came to the conclusion that you just have to live your life and be glad with the people that God put in your life at the moment. For example, my mother just went through a dramatic friend issue not too long ago. She was friends with this chick from high school and they had been friends for nearly 30 years, through thick and thin, but then the chick turned on my mom and left her. My mom didn't even know why. But you can't get depressed when people you care about leave you because when they do, someone else will come along, and all you can do is be glad for the memories you have and the times spent laughing with them and move on. If the friendship was meant to last, then it will. People in your life now will most likely not show up in 5 or 10 years from now, so just be happy with the people that are in your life at the moment. As for what's in a true friend, I think the one largest quality a friendship can have is trust. A friendship is useless without trust and honesty. But not only do you have to look for qualities in friends you choose, but you have to have those qualities in yourself as well. It hurts just as much if not worse to know that you betrayed a friend than to know a friend betrayed you. Sorry about all the rambling, I guess what I'm saying here is it takes a friend to have a friend, and just love and laugh with who you have at the moment.
That is a very true comment. Trust is not to be taken lightly. I have had many friends that lie to me behind my back and then right to my face. It hurts when you know that they are flatly lying to you and they don't care. But on the other hand, it always will feel worse when you are blatently lying to someone. Some may say that it is "their life and that they don't care if they are hurt." That is why honesty and communication are imperative in a functional relationship. Many friends terminate because of change. That is never going to change. Ironically, the only thing that is constant is change. It all depends on if the change is for the better. People need to work around differences and respect them for who they are. A true friend will never, never, NEVER leave a friend for their own gain and betray with malice. I want everyone reading this to know that I will always be there for my friends and I will always be there for a shoulder to cry on and I will always care for each and every one of you. Remember to always help others. Fellowship is key in making it through daily trials. Friends are the ones who help you make your "lemon pudding cake."
Hahaha... I like the part about the lemon pudding cake. Very true. And thank you for the assuring bit about always being there...I consider you a true friend!
I know that you alone understand the last bit! Thank you for that. It is always good to know that people care about you.
I can really relate to this post. Because honestly, I'm at that point in my life where it is extremely hard for me to trust or get along with anyone sincerely. I really want a friend who will always just be honest with me. And tell me what I need to hear! Not just what sounds nice. If they tell me the truth, I'm not going to lop their head off for it. This post kinda stirs mixed emotions as well. It makes me remember all the hurt and anger I've been put through by lots of people. A lot of times it's because everyone wants more! More love! More Affection! More everything! And they come trying to drag it out of me if feels like. Honestly, I don't believe that there are true friends in this world. Too many times have I seen them turn on eachother, and wreck one another's lives. Or demand for more. I cannot be a true friend because I'll always have that bitter, vain, vengeful side of me. I try to become better for everyone, but I can see that it's never going to be enough. Friends are supposed to make you laugh and smile, to give you a hug and let you know that they wouldn't care if you had a pigs nose, or if you were known as the geekiest or gayist, or most drugiest person in the world. They'd still stand by your side and help you choose what is right. True, some people have periods of time where they show that they can be a true friend. But then they seem to chuck it out the window. They either abandon someone, backstab them, or just humanly greed takes over. Envy is one of the variables as well. Sorry if I sound very harsh. As you can see, I've been through a lot, and a lot of it no one really knows about.
Regardless of how bitter,angry, or sad my feelings are now. I still know I love you guys, and I'll try my best to be a true groovin friend to ya. Now I need to get a chocolate bar and listen to some Disney songs. XD
Brittany, you make very good points. I will let you know that whatever happens, I will always be there for you. You can call me any time and I will gladly help you in any ordeal that you are going through. I think that it is safe to say that I know more about your problems than most people and I understand your point of view. I do not believe in judging people on appearance, or what their religion is, or even race. I believe that everyone on this earth has a soul and something that they can contribute to the community, no matter what. The things that change people is the decisions that they make. The time that people need a friend the most is when they make a decision that they are not exactly proud of and they need someone to confide in. I have experienced alot of what you have told me in the times that we have known eachother. I have felt the emptiness and loss in times when i have been abandoned and rejected, but then i think of the good things that I have encountered and the good people. You will always have a place in my heart. I will always encourage you to come to me in your times of trial and need. You are a wonderful person. You have never caused me to believe otherwise. I know a few that would say the same as well. I hope that this hasn't been random gobbledy gook, and I hope that you have obtain some meaning from my ramblings. By the way... We still need to get going on that bike ride!
Idk, with my friends secrets are kept often, mainly pertaining to having a crush on another friend ( even though we havn't even had one day of high school yet), but with secrets others can feel left out. Though sharing secrets is often a way to get to know each other, they can be hurtful, and ocationaly deathly for a friendship. Yeah, I know this sounds all morbid but im kinda stuck beween a rock and a hard place with the whole secrets thing right now. I think a true friend will speak their mind, being nice about it of course, and worries more about having a good time and laughing instead of boys/girls.
What you guys thing about secrets? I mean sometimes they can strengthen a friendship, sometimes break it. what are your opions on that matter?
I totally agree with the honesty thing. Nothing is worse then telling something something deep that is happening in your life just to have it spill to everyone by that friend.
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